Signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you

Can you tell that he enjoys spending time with you but you want to take things to the next level and get a bit more serious? If you see any of these red flags, though, you better skip the relationship with this one and enjoy the sex while it lasts.

Does he tell you everything you like to hear? It’s because he knows what you need to hear in order to buy some more time with you without making it official. If he is always talking about how much he likes but doesn’t show it (like taking you out more with his friends, meeting family, talking on the phone), then you need to move on.

Have you noticed that when you are making plans beyond a month, he is hard to lock down? If he always gets out of making future plans with you, it’s not only because he doesn’t know where he will be in the near future, but he also doesn’t know who he will be with. If he isn’t ready to make future social plans with you, then you can forget about making future life plans with him. Cut your losses.

Do you have a great, playful and flirty rapport with him but you have realized that your relationship is very surface level? If you rarely talk about anything serious, whether it’s about your present life or your upbringing, then he may be trying to keep you in a certain “fun” role in his life. Getting to know each other in a mentally intimate level can really change a relationship, and if he is avoiding that level of intimacy, don’t even bother. 

Does he steer clear of all relationship talk or conveniently stay quiet and opinion-less when someone else broaches the subject? Well, why do you think that is?

I wish I didn’t feel like I have to even say this…but lastly, if he is directly saying that he does not want a relationship, believe him.

It is not a challenge. 

Nothing you do will make him change his mind, so don’t waste your time! 

I learned the hard way that putting out won’t get you a boyfriend, it will only give you a high body count. All I ever wanted was the love and attention that I now realize I didn’t get as a child, and no, I didn’t find it on some guy’s dick.

The right guy won’t care if you have sex right away because he will be too wrapped up in getting to know you that he won’t notice.